– [Amanda] Hello, Psych2Go family. Welcome back to another Psych2Go video. Think of your ideal partner. Is he smart and funny? Does it look a certain way? Do they act a certain way? These traits are your success factors. The qualities that attract them to another person. But there are also failure factors, qualities that send them running in terror. According to a 2014 study by Joel and others, coming out with failure factors has a bigger impact than with success factors. In other words, the bad usually outweighs the good. So here are seven factors for dating failure that they should know.
One, being too needy. Have you dated someone who wants to know what are they doing and where are they all the time? Being needy is a popular failure factor. A 2015 study by Janssen and others found that 57% of men and 69% of women they feel disinterested in needy couples. A couple in need is someone desperate for attention and fearful of abandonment. They are often insecure about the relationship. Maybe text them 24/7, and they hope you will reply as soon as possible. When you have a partner in need, many people feel suffocated and suffocated. Two, be very lazy. How do you feel when your partner don’t put any effort into the relationship? Laziness is the second most common failure factor out there. 72% of women consider laziness the number one failure factor. Why? Because lazy couples are often useless and inconsiderate. They may not have specific goals or ambitions. Really lazy people, they feel like parasites, living off all that you guys work hard.
Three, they have a different sexual desire. Couples must connect, not just emotionally, but physically as well. In a committed relationship it is important that they are on the same page in the room. Janssen and others found than sexual desire is another common failure factor. Also known as Libido, sexual desire describes how often they want to be intimate with their partner. In a healthy relationship, couples have similar sexual desires, allowing both parties to express themselves so often or as widely as you like. What if your sex drive is low and your partner’s sexual desire is high? 33% of people put the difference in sexual desire within your top five failure factors. When they cannot be put on the same page physically, creates frustration in the relationship. If the sexual desire of you and your partner are very different, they may not be the perfect couple. Four. Watching too much TV. How much time do you spend watching TV? Or playing video games? There is nothing wrong with spending time at leisure, But too much TV can be a failure factor.
This was a failure factor for 25% of the men and 41% of women. But the problem is not the games themselves, or TV shows. It is the amount of time they invest in them. If they play video games for eight hours a day, maybe they are neglecting their health, your job or your relationship. Most couples don’t care if they watch TV or play video games, but moderation is the key. Five. Poor personal hygiene. Of all the failure factors on this list, poor hygiene is the most common. Almost 70% of the people said that poor hygiene it is an instant failure factor. In both short and long term relationships, they have to take care of themselves. Most couples want someone to pay attention to your health and hygiene. Someone to maintain their appearance. Someone who won’t let a week go by without a bath.
Six. Being too athletic or not at all. How much does your appearance matter in a relationship? Is your appearance as important as they say? Turns out the appeal wasn’t even in the top 20 failure factors. The truth is, most people are happy with someone who is pretty average. For example, many men think they have to be muscular and athletic to be attractive. But 10% of the people said that over athletics is a failure factor. On the other hand, zero athletics is also a failure factor. That is why the most desirable couples they are not on one side or the other. They find a healthy environment. And seven, the lack of security. Do you feel confident about yourself? Lack of security is another major failure factor. 40% of people, 33 for men and almost 50% for women, they named security as a big issue.
Self-assurance in this context means that you are comfortable being yourself. Self-confidence is liking yourself enough to come out of its shell. People are attracted to couples they are not afraid to be themselves. So, don’t hold yourself back. Do you agree with any of the failure factors on this list? What are your biggest failure factors in relationships? Tell us about your experiences in the comment section below. Don’t forget to click the Like and Subscribe button to Psych2Go for more psychology content.
And as always, thanks for watching us..
Read More: The only dating advice you’ll ever need